Many people have used scriptures to push their will on others. God is and will be their judge.

Husband love your wives, wives respect, trust and rely on him to care for you and your children. Marriage is a relationship between two imperfect people. God created you as a person first to have a relationship with him. Then you are defined as male or female, with many roles, gifts, and talents. It is easy to blame God, the church, and ourselves for not truly understanding His Word or the correct application. My husband can wash a dish just as well as I can. That is not what makes me put my trust in him, rely on him, get mad at him too.

I have learned life consequences can take you beyond your emotional ability to handle, especially if it involves family and their decisions that cost so much. Grief and sadness are natural and break the heart in two. Tears well up, and loss overwhelms and hopes dashed. These emotions are overwhelming and indisputable, know that. But also know that God’s heart for you is real.

The truth is she (Anna Duggar) has experienced real trauma from betrayal, and disappointment from the one person who was supposed to be there for her. She doesn’t need our judgment…let us shut our mouth and not be so quick to judge. We do not possess the clarity of vision in their lives.

She needs our heartfelt prayer. She needs to know that she can heal from the trauma. She is worthy of having a true partner, she is worthy of true love, she is worthy of having her heart held safely by her partner, she is worthy to be cherished, she is worthy. Not because of all the mistakes made, not that it is earned or bargained for; it is that God created each of us to love and be loved, cared for, valued. The family is where this is learned first, not the church. The family was established long before the church. Let us not be quick to judge her or the church but let us look to each other and be determined and wise in how we raise our kids. Today, we must be as innocent as doves, (run from evil) and wise as serpents, (know what evil looks like even when disguised).

In Job, God rebukes Job’s counselors by saying, “Who is this that darkens counsel by word without knowledge (of ME)? (Job 38:2) Have you ever in your life commanded the morning and caused the dawn to know its place? (v.12)

I stop here thinking the science behind that statement is immense. God set boundaries for the sea and made a cloud its garment. He binds the chains of Pleiades and loose the cords of Orion (v. 31). Is it by my understanding that a hawk soars or nature fulfills its course? Of course not.

Then God asks Job (paraphrase) Do you condemn me to prove yourself right?

Job’s reply: (paraphrase): Whoa, I shut my mouth!

The book of Job is a lesson in perspective from heaven to earth, earth to heaven. God’s Presence is everywhere.

How many people do we shut down, disown just to prove ourselves right?